Cheryl Zondi…

Cheryl Zondi…

I salute you. I salute your courageous spirit. I once wrote ” There is goodness in pain. When it is given an opportunity to be all it is known to be, there is goodness in it – its goodness lies in it ending. And its ending is a mere choice…”  You have chosen to end your pain, a brave and bold choice. You have chosen to use your voice to free yourself from mental and physical slavery; to break the chains that have held you from yourself for so long. You have chosen to heal the “wounded child within”. Yes it’s a going to be a process. Yes it’s not going to be easy but its gonna be worth every effort, every tear, every memory and humiliation.

I salute you for choosing to bleed publicly, choosing to be crucified so as to heal the wounded child within you. Your bravery will heal many. Your open wound and your pushing ahead despite your fear will ensure that many men and women start crawling towards healing wounds they’ve covered up so long, they’ve infected their lives.

They ask why you never spoke about it sooner?
They still haven’t spoken about their demons – their alcoholic fathers who abused their mothers and later turned to them. They still haven’t spoken about their spouses who sexually molest their children and force them to turn a blind eye just like their trying to do with you.
They say you’re a wild one – And so you should be.
You were violated, manipulated and forced to grow way before your time. Selfishly, only your body was instructed to do the growing. See, many will not understand why you kept quiet when your trust was broken, when your pride was shunned and your dignity trampled on. Many will question why you never spoke up when your voice was muted. When you were told ‘I have the police on my payroll’.
Some will ask why you kept going back; yet they keep going back to their abusers in the workplace day after day. They go back to their abusers at home and like you, they put up a happy front. But unlike you, they have no courage to do what you did – they are ruled by fear.
People are painful… They shout and scream when you take a firm and bold stand against the uncomfortable truths of life, yet tomorrow stand at your grave site and ask why did she not say anything?!
Don’t mind them baby girl, don’t let their cowardice discourage you. You were not given a spirit of fear but of a sound mind! You do not need approval to heal yourself and cleanse your soul – it don’t matter how long it took to get you to that place of “enough”!
You do not need approval to tell your truth your way; and you certainly do not need approval to choose you over the noise, the titles, the masses and all the bullshit!!
Salute!

Dinkeng G. Mokhunoane

11 Replies to “Cheryl Zondi…”

    1. This is powerful Dinkeng! And true in so many ways. We live in such a sad world because we refuse to face our demons because we don’t want to be disappoint the narrative that says “mosadi o mamela mathata, ho that’s lenyalong etc”. I truly comment Cheryl for this!!!

      1. Honesty is what breaks these narratives. Had our parents been true to themselves and stood for their rights as women, we would have a completely different school of thought around these issues. It is now our responsibility as young mothers and wives to pave a better way for those who come after us. We are mothering wives and husband’s, it all lies with us now.

  1. This is powerful Dinkeng! And true in so many ways. We live in such a sad world because we refuse to face our demons because we don’t want to be disappoint the narrative that says “mosadi o mamela mathata, ho that’s lenyalong etc”. I truly comment Cheryl for this!!!

  2. You are something else hey! The way you use words. I salute the brave women that have the strength to speak out and to leave their abusers. Many of us leave but because we never speak out we carry our wounds in secret and even though we never completely heal, we just get used to the burden. I pray that your gift will continue to reach to our side sisters that want to unburden themselves and find true healing. 😭

  3. In the awesome pattern of things you get an A+ with regard to effort. Where you lost me personally was first in the specifics. You know, people say, the devil is in the details… And that couldn’t be more true right here. Having said that, let me tell you what exactly did work. Your text is actually very powerful and this is possibly the reason why I am making an effort to comment. I do not make it a regular habit of doing that. Next, despite the fact that I can certainly notice a leaps in logic you make, I am not really confident of just how you seem to unite the ideas that produce your conclusion. For right now I shall yield to your point but trust in the foreseeable future you connect the facts much better.

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